YSOS Book Club: The Four Agreements
The Four Agreements: A Toltec Wisdom Book
Don Miguel Ruiz
When I kicked off this spiritual/self-discovery odyssey back in fall 2010, The Four Agreements was one of the first books I picked up with this theme. I’ve read it twice more and it’s an absolute favorite.
At 138 pages (if you read the prayers in the back), it’s a quick and easy read (you can easily get through it on a two-hour flight, even at a leisurely pace), but a profound one. I’ve gotten something new from it every time I’ve read it, and I look forward to picking through it again.
What are The Four Agreements? Labeled as “A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom,” it’s a code of conduct based on Toltec wisdom that examines the source of the emotional and belief-based limitations that keep us from fulfillment and self-actualization. Here’s the synopsis, taken straight from the inside cover:
Be Impeccable with Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t Take Anything Personally (Penny note – the most powerful for me!): Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
This is a beautiful, meaningful book that bears such a wonderful message. I hope you’ll enjoy it as much as I did.